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When meeting bikers through an online Harley Dating service, good communication is imperative. Chances are that you will meet several bikers from around the States. Therefore, the last thing you want to do is say something that would come off as offensive although it was meant in fun. Additionally, since you will start by typing messages to each other, it is important that your words make an impression. The following communication tips will help you have a more enjoyable time, safer meeting, and better success with your online Harley Dating experience:

• Meeting Harley Riders Online – Most internet Harley Dating services offer a number of ways for you to communicate. You initially start with a simple e-mail saying, "Hi" and telling the person that you read his or her biker profile and were interested in learning more about him/her. Just make sure you did read the profile and have something specific mentioned in the message that they know you did. For example, if you are a woman and you found the profile of a man that intrigued you because he owned a Heritage Softail just like you, you could say something like, "Hi. My name is Mary and I noticed in your profile that you own a Heritage . I do too!" From there, give a brief description of your motorcycle, mention that you would enjoy hearing back, and sign off. Additionally, you will find that most services offer Instant Messaging and Chat Rooms. Some even provide special tools that help you along with the flirting process like a "Ride Invite" found on BikerMatchmaking.com.

• Intuition – Always trust your internal red flag system, no matter how charming or handsome/beautiful a person may be. If you choose to respond to a message and those messages become too assertive or personal, you are not required to keep communicating. In addition, you are not required to explain why you are NOT communicating, which is one beauty of online dating. Secondly, if you receive an initial message that makes you feel uncomfortable, you simply do not answer. On BikerMatchmaking.com, they have many safety features in place to keep you safe. Only when you feel comfortable do you give out personal info.

• Gaining Information – The key to seeing if someone is indeed a good Harley Match for you is to gain as much information as you can, which is done by asking as many questions as possible. Now keep in mind you do not want to come across as a Drill Sergeant or a Cop, but you do want to get past the surface. Try to learn about where they grew up, what type of work they are in, what MC club affiliations they belong to, what things they enjoy doing in their spare time, do they have children, pets, and so on. Although it may sound clinical, keep a card or computer journal of information for each of the people you find interesting. Believe me, if you start communicating with several bikers at once, it can be very easy to get your facts mixed up. Therefore, by having the information on a card or computer screen in front of you when communicating with one person, you will not mess up.

• Physical Appearance – If you find someone interesting that does not have a photo posted, it could be for a number of reasons. It might be that he or she is new to the service and has not yet had time to upload a photo or it might be that he or she is in the process of updating a photo, etc. However, if that person has been with the service for more than one month and still has not posted a photo that should raise a small red flag. Additionally, if you ask the person to send you a photo and all you get are lame excuses, i.e., "I don’t photograph well" or "I don’t have a camera," then that too should send you a red flag. At this time, it would be perfectly fine to ask, "Okay, just curious, are you involved with someone?"

• Phone Calls – After you have been corresponding with someone for a while, most people will exchange phone numbers. If you were uncomfortable in giving your home phone, a cell phone would work in that it is not published and can easily be changed. Actually hearing a person’s voice and the way they speak can change the entire picture. Just be sure you wait an appropriate amount of time so you have the option of getting to know them online before you begin the phone quest.

• Red flags are defined as those little comments made by someone you are communicating with that make you feel uneasy as though something is not quite right. You may notice that something is said or that certain characteristics and behaviors come out that make you think twice about pursuing anything with that individual.

  One of the reasons it is so important to use the e-mail and other communication tools within the online dating service instead of your personal accounts is that many times, these red flags take weeks to months to show. Therefore, while you are learning about this person, you are protecting yourself. The information below is just a few examples of what would constitute a red flag. Some of these may seem like a no-brainer to you but it is important that you keep your mind open even to the subtle indicators.

  • If a biker provides you with inconsistent information regarding interests, marital status, profession, family, age, employment, and so on, start taking note of the various things to see if you simply misunderstood or if the truth is being stretched.

  • If a biker does not provide you with direct answers, you should be asking yourself why

  • The individual seems interested in you but after meeting, he or she makes up excuses to not introduce you to family and friends

  • Seems to become irritated or angry easily – look for passive-aggressive behavior

  • Attempts to put pressure on you – perhaps he or she is persistent in getting your phone number, your address, information about your work, your family, your children, or wants to meet you now

  • Makes demeaning or condescending comments about you, his or her family, friends, or co-workers

  • Refuses to make phone contact after the two of you have established a good online connection, which could be an indication that there is a spouse or significant other involved

  • Insists he or she does not have a photograph to upload and constantly makes excuses for not rectifying the problem

  • The person is young and single, and interested in meeting and building a relationship with you but states they want someone who is single, divorced, or widowed, has no children (heirs), is financial stable, and would be willing to accept poor health – this would show all the signs of a gold-digger

  • The person has no life achievements and/or still lives with parents

  • States his or her turn-on is walking on the beach, snuggling, and sitting in front of a fireplace gazing into each other’s eyes. While some people do enjoy this, to determine if this person is sincere, you need to do much more investigation.

  • Has served time in jail/prison – sure, people can change but this is something to learn much more about and not just from that person

  • Someone who seems to be overly interested in someone with children

  • A person that has a lot of baggage and negative history – if that person has overcome those obstacles, then kudos to him or her but in most cases, it takes years of therapy and hard work to conquer serious issues

  • Religious or political views are two things that can cause a divorce in a heartbeat. If the individual is very overpowering with his or her views, even if you share the same viewpoints, chances are conversations could become heated.
    

  • If you start talking to someone who has completed his or her PhD and spends more time bragging than trying to get to know you, watch out
    
  • A passive/submissive behavior is a bad sign that the person does not think on his or her own feet, which is not want you want. Although that person may be nice, you probably do not want a doormat as a partner.
    
  • The person immediately starts talking about sex or things that are too personal
    

  Although these red flags do not make a person bad or a bad choice, they simply raise questions to whether or not that person is right for you. Additionally, just as you look for red flags in others, take time to perform a self-evaluation to see if you project red flags to others.